ON PURPOSE
Purpose isn’t a shiny place, it’s a state.On Purpose is your invitation to stop doing everything that’s not on purpose.
You’ve likely seen the purpose diagram somewhere online
and thought one of two things:
Wow, I wish my job were this cool.
What a pile of rubbish. It isn’t realistic top have a job that you love, you’re good at, are paid for and the world needs. I feel disempowered, stuck or angry at the diagram.
TINY INNER VOICE:
Maybe maybe just maybe, it is actually possible. There seem to be people who are actually in the centre, maybe not all of the time, but who can wholeheartedly tick all 4 boxes. It is my desire (if you are honest with yourself) to be that person. For what reason ever, you don’t feel that way. Maybe you’re stuck in a job you don’t like, maybe you feel that external circumstances (the economy, the place you live in, your personal obligations).What do you feel when you look at the diagram?
If you’re in the happy go lucky purpose team, you may as well stop reading. On Purpose is for people who don’t quite feel like they’re on it.
More specifically:
Sometimes you feel as though you should have figured it out by now, the whole “what to do with your life” and “being a happy and accomplished grown-up” thing
You put up with less than ideal circumstances in the everyday drill and you can take it, but you wish you didn’t have to take anything, you wish work weren’t a drill
Dreaming doesn’t feel quite as expansive, impossible and wondrous as it used to. You’re reverting to possible-scenario-thinking-if-I-work-hard instead
You used to dislike it when grown-ups said “you gotta do what you gotta do” and here you are
You sometimes slip into self-judgement and self-sabotage “I’m too old/young/inexperienced/emotional/disorganised to make a change”
When you do venture out into the land of leaving it all behind, your thoughts tend to be extreme: “I’m quitting it all and selling cupcakes on a tropical beach”
You aren’t sure whether it’s possible to experience a work reality that you love, are good at, that the world needs and that you’re paid for. But it sounds pretty neat
You’re often angry at your boss/ organisation/ industry because it’s all smoke and mirrors and, if you’re honest to yourself, not what you signed up for
Your obligations, lifestyle and expectations of yourself keep you firmly put in your current position and you know what? It’s fine most of the time
Sometimes you would like to know how to emotionally uncouple yourself
Sometimes, just sometimes, you wish you had an inner advocate that tells you “yes, this is the right place” or “no, we are drawing a line in the sand right here”
INTRODUCING ON PURPOSE
A 4-week course to XXXX
... You are stuck in a less than inspiring work situation and want a change.
.... You are tired of postponing the things that matter to you.
...Your inner perfectionist has kept you from showing up.
....You know deep down that you are supposed to be doing something more meaningful and fun.
... You need courage and self-belief to get the ball rolling.
.... Sometimes you think it's too late (then you remember you tell your friends it's never too late).
.... You believe that change can happen gently.
...You’d like to feel more confident that you’re on the right career path
....You want to be soemone who stands for what they believe in
… You want to be genuinely excited more
… You’d like to know how to let go of things and say no without feeling like a failure
On Purpose was designed for people who are ready to poke their head out of the box, take responsibility for what they yearn for
and explore the world beyond business as usual.
The On Purpose Roadmap:
Introduction:
Why (and how) working with Purpose works (and how to give yourself permission to actually do this)
Chapter 1: What’s Purpose and why you should care
The reason you are stuck somewhere between desire and doing
Why dreaming out loud is so damn scary and important
Why you never feel like a dream come true.
Chapter 2: Transforming your own bullshit
How resistance works and why hating it or pretending it's not there is counterproductive
Uncovering resistance myths
Getting in the bullshit transformation mindset
Learning your personal language of resistance
What to do when you are in a resistance shithole
Chapter 3: Purposeful Dreaming & Planning
How to dream crazy big without feeling crazy
How getting it out gives you the choice to lovingly letting go, move forward or recognise that you are in the perfect place
How to move from dreaming to doing with grace and confidence
How to put together all the individual pieces and turn a dream into an actionable concept
Chapter 4: Purposeful Doing
What if this is easy?
Why intentions are more powerful than expectations
How to get ahead: ask for feedback, guidance and money and feel great while doing it (these are honest conversation templates)
How to take bold baby steps with what you have
How to get people (the ones that matter) on board
Just to be really transparent with you. On Purpose is NOT for you if:
....You are looking for a 'how to leave the 9-5 and launch my business' course …
....You believe work is supposed to be hard and that success is rooted in sacrifice.
... You are not ready to call yourself on your bullshit or do any type of looking inside.
... You are absolutely happy with your life, feel your path under your feet and love dreaming and doing.
.... The word “bullshit” is so offensive to you, you won’t be able to work with it.
Biggest frustration:
Not keeping my own promises to myself
Somehow i keep prioritising work over my wellbeing and my relationships (I don’t do it concsiously but I get into a flow with work where i forget time and commitments)
I seek acknowledgement and recognition (self-worth externalised to the structure)
I dont understand my purpose and meaning and its fucking easy to push away because you’Re so busy
Whats the meaning and purpose of my work. It’s a fucking job
How can i find meaning for my life outside of work. Dunno how to get started
I have a spark! What do i do with it
I havent allowed myself time to reflect that deeply
What are you currently doing?
Push it away
Dont thnk of it as a problem
Work harder, work smarter
Work out, spend time outdoors
Habits: call my mom/ sister/ friend twice a week
I try!
I take online courses and watch ted talks
Acting class
I want to learn how to play guitar, learn another language - invest in skills i really want to learn that don’t require my brain but my soul
It’s not my brain that’s going to get me to the next level
What happens if you don’t solve it
I’ll burn out
Magic wand:
I would run 5 different companies that all have meaning and purpose
I spend myself traveling, living in takaungu
Write book
Have kids - be an unbusy mother of 2, a great friend, enjoy life.
Solution:
Clarity - “I am here to do this and relentlessly go for that”
Commitment
Keeping promises to myself first and foremost
Being a little more vulnerable: getting rid of the need to have internal recognition
Redefining what success looks like
To get to that place, i need a different soul level
Being more gutsy
Girl standing in the rain screaming from joy. Remember her? She’s still there. Let’s get her.